I recently celebrated a Beatles birthday.
It is a celebration—even though I understand that while there are a few people still ahead of me, there are now far more people behind me. I am getting older, and with that comes the realization that in a few years I will be facing the ultimate next chapter.
Yet it is a celebration because there really is a lot to celebrate:
I am the youngest of five, and I am blessed that while we all have aches, pains, and some physical challenges, all my siblings are still here.
I am also blessed by the realization that I’ve outlived my father who passed away at 46 and my mother, who passed at 50, two days after I graduated from high school.
I celebrate the fact that while I have had challenges, I have not come close to dealing with the overt racism of the south my parents were born into and the covert racism of the “tolerant” north they spent most of their lives being part of.
Both my parents lived long enough to see the start of America’s second reconstruction, a period their children have been part of for a portion (the older children) or all of their (me and the youngest of my older sisters) lives.
I remember going with my father to the ballot booth, which means he was exercising something that even in Seattle, had to be a bit of a challenge, something that even with the power of the federal government behind it, people who looked like my father were still not able to do in the south in the late 60’s.
When I was born, my marriage was still illegal in ALL OF THE SOUTH—and the ruling that would make it legal was still 5 years away.
There is a major push to eliminate the rights of adults to marry the adults they love, lead by a man who—last I checked—was MARRIED TO A WHITE WOMAN. (Uncle Clarence was lucky enough to find a woman of any color who was willing to put up with him).
Their argument being that Loving focused on the marriage of a man and woman—but what the court said was that “freedom to marry resides with the individual and cannot be infringed by the state.” If the state can regulate who is free to marry—does this nimrod honestly believe the states that rushed to eliminate the right for poor women to choose their reproductive health won’t regulate not only who you can marry, BUT WHAT COLOR YOU CAN MARRY?!? Just remember, it took Alabama THIRTY-THREE YEARS AFTER LOVING to remove its anti-miscegenation from the books—AND STILL ALLOWS 16-YEAR-OLDS TO MARRY (with their parent’s permission of course…)
I was still in diapers when the federal government started forcing states to eliminate the illusion of “separate but equal” in education. I see the result of that effort every time I go to visit my daughter in Nashville and pass the amazing number of private “academies” that have a very monochromatic student body.
I also saw that here in “I have Black friends” Seattle where parents at Ballard High School laid the groundwork for the end of school integration in the U.S. and with my daughter in the Seattle School District, where I saw White, Obama bumper sticker “liberal” parents losing their minds about letting in students of color in the District’s old Accelerated Progress Program (APP)—so you smug and sanctimonious hypocrites sit down and stay quiet.
It’s tough to realize that after having gained so much that just like the first reconstruction, 60 years after the second reconstruction, the battle is over and people who look like me—and so many others—are on the losing end yet again.
I have spent a lot of time trying to think about how to explain how this happened AGAIN:
–From the signing of the Civil Rights and Voting Rights Acts and the “Solid South” staying that way—just with a new political affiliation. Some internet historians like to point out that it was Democrats who blocked this legislation without mentioning the second part—that those “Democrats” became Republicans even as President Johnson was signing them into law.

(Photo by PhotoQuest)
–From Nixon’s capitalization of the White Fragility (and frankly the inclination of too many Democrats acting like spoiled two-year-olds and saying: IF I CAN’T GET WHAT I WANT, I’LL SHOW YOU AND NOT SHOW UP AT THE POLLS or vote for Nader or say there is no difference between Gore and W or between Hillary and the failed talk show host) that came from those pieces of legislation to develop the “Southern Strategy” that gave birth to:
–The “State’s Rights” blueprint launched by Reagan just a few miles away from where sons of the Klan killed three people because they were trying to help end American Apartheid. It was in Philadelphia, Mississippi that Reagan launched the campaign signaling the start of the federal government turning a blind eye to human rights that people DIED to achieve that had been law for less than a generation.
–The “Tea Party” the odious branch that grew from the Southern Strategy and State’s Rights and has now metastasized into the cancerous “MAGATs” led by a grifting carnival barker who opened up the porta potty doors and dumped all of the effluent of the last 75 years into public view—and has bragged about it ever since.
How do you explain all that?
With a simple picture.
A lot of people who are better with words than I have tried to explain the gravity this picture carries. To me it’s simple:
It’s a repudiation of the work of Dr. King, Representative Lewis, Rose Parks, Fannie Lou Hamer, James Chaney, Andrew Goodman, and Michael Schwerner, Harvey Milk and so many others.
It’s a reminder that the grandfathers and great-grandfathers of these punks at least had the courage to show their faces when they marched in their Klan outfits in D.C. a century ago. They know they’re doing wrong and because they don’t want the brown people they interact with to spit in their faces (or kick their asses) they don’t have the gonads to acknowledge being a proud White Racist.

The lack of outrage across the spectrum—I didn’t expect the MAGATs to say anything, but HOLY HELL the overwhelming silence of people who should know better reminds me of what Dr. King said almost 60 years ago: “In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.”
It explains that yet again people of color (and the many other humans who have always been on the outside looking in) should just keep our mouths shut and be happy that we continue to be allowed to live in this “Wonderful White Country.”
There is no fear.
There is no anger.
There’s just frustration—because she realizes there is nothing that she can do.
That to speak up—or worse yet, to fight—could have far lethal consequences than just sitting there and dealing with it until either she or they got off the subway.
So, as we celebrate the 250th anniversary of a document that includes the words “that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights.”
We are reminded that it’s just words because too many people continue to be comfortable committing acts that deny those rights they believe their creator provided to them to people who don’t look or act like them.
Until Next Time
















